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Self-Care You Can Do Fast and Free!

Self-Care You Can Do Fast and Free!

It is hard to make yourself a priority sometimes if you are like me -  maybe all the time. But it is absolutely necessary unless you want chaos to ensue, depression, or other mental health concerns. Yes, it is that serious.  I am also taking the self out of “self-care” because when you meet your needs everyone in your circle will be better off, I promise. I wish I had a money back guarantee or something. It is OKAY to do something for YOU, it is NOT selfish. This blog is all about care costing zip, zilch, nadda, from home with the aid of, or the underutilized use of bartering. If when you think of “self-care” it conjures images of day spas, pedicures, manicures, and massages, then keep reading. That is not always practical, and This is NOT that.

First, find a power partner outside of your home. All you need is one y’all. We all have one person we can count on. If you don’t - connect with someone in the Realm tribe. We are likely all dealing with fairly similar things including the desire to be sane…

“Connection is caring for yourself”

Connection is caring for yourself. Trust me, I know what it feels like to want to close up shop, and hideaway. I spent the better part of a decade hostage at home. But you need accountability, and so does someone that loves you. An easy way to accomplish taking a break from the constant demands of caring for someone is to trade with someone who is in the same situation.  Start trading respite. There are babysitting co-ops online. But it may be easier to just trade with a friend who knows you, your dependent and has experience in helping someone with significant needs. They watch your kid(s) (or adult kid(s)) and you watch theirs. Set up a date with yourself, and keep it just like you do your loved one’s doctors appointments. Think of it as a doctor appointment for your soul.

The following are all free and you do not have to leave the house to do them <3

  1. Heat! Taking a bath, snuggling in front of the fireplace, (don’t laugh I stand over the heater vent with my robe on) and it traps all the heat inside and it feels like a warm hug. When Zaki was very sick, I would say I was going to the bathroom (which required a “tag team” approach) due to extremely frequent drop seizures, and soak my feet in hot water with Epsom salts while sitting on the toilet. Hey, sometimes I even had the seat closed. :)  Even a couple of minutes of heat can really relax you.
  2. Breathe! Taking deep belly breaths often are very helpful. 6 of them, lower your blood pressure. Start every day before getting out of bed and hitting the ground running, or prior to picking up that stupid phone with breathing. I take 100 natural deep breaths through my nose before I get out of bed. Notice how you are breathing now. Is it in your chest or shoulders? Yeah me too! Get your belly to expand and contract. It will take practice. While you are driving or cooking be sure to be very aware of this, and practice. Use a free app like calm or waking up with Sam Harris. (you can win a year’s subscription to calm by clicking the link)
  3. Stretch! What is the first thing your cat does after napping? That’s right, they stretch. I think they are onto something. Our 80-year-old selves will thank us for this. A quick yoga routine, or just sitting on the ground in your bedroom during the kids' nap time, or after they’re in bed is a great opportunity. There are practices under 10 minutes. You have 10 minutes.
  4. Read! Not self-help books, or research (like I am prone to do) Well, do that, but not exclusively. You are perfect the way you are so put the self-help books away and extend grace to yourself... read something totally entertaining to you. Is that a magazine? A smutty novel? Reading is the only way I know how to be transported out of this world with the turn of a page. This is a great getaway. I usually have several books going of all varieties. What am I reading? I am so glad you asked that question.

    • Feelings buried alive never die, by Karol Truman
    • Naperville, a brief history, Bryan Ogg (random - my 6th great grandfather founded this town)
    • When the Impossible Happens, by Stanislav Grof PhD
    • My Sister's Keeper - Jodi Picoult (love to read the books before I watch the movies - the movie is a treat too)


  5. Drink! Hey now, not that kind of drink. Water! Lots of it. Take your weight and divide it in half and drink that much in ounces. Ie: a 150 lb person should drink 75oz of water daily. I won’t tell you how much I drink. That would give my weight away. Let's just say I pee a lot. This is a great way to move those toxins out. I downloaded a free app for that too.
  6. Disconnect! Disconnect to reconnect. Have you put the app on your phone “Screen Time”? It came with the last IOS update on Apple, and friends are finding the app for their Androids. I set limits on my phone just last month. The first day (Sunday) I set limits, I read an entire book. I set my social media to 30 minutes and my entertainment to 1 hour a day. I spent 33 hours on the stupid phone the week prior. I imagine if I spent one-third of that time on me, for me, I would definitely be better! I would heal quicker. I am more important than scrolling and scrolling and scrolling and so are you! Oh, my screen time was down 41% the next week, and down another 11% the week after. 50% reduction in screen time is huge! I’m looking into my husband’s eyes when he talks to me. It has been the best for my relationship, and bedtime routine! Mmmmhmmmm, we are all adults here, you know what I am talking about!



  7. Move! You have to get your body moving. Research suggests it can be as good as prescribed antidepressants. There are a million videos on youtube. Dancing for 20 minutes. Yoga with Adriene. Taichi - (this was amazing for me when I was on sabbatical). Moving/bouncing acts like a pump for your adrenals. They don’t have a natural pump of their own, so help them out! 7 min workout is an app you may like. Or maybe you really want to get the “high” and calm followed by vigorous exercise. Exercise increases your endocannabinoids particularly one called anandamide (the bliss molecule) and increases the tone of your endocannabinoid system (ECS) the system responsible for balance and homeostasis. They suspect that “feel good” feeling is not from endorphins as those puppies are too big to cross the blood-brain barrier. They think it is from the endocannabinoid dump, those do cross the blood-brain barrier.  
  8. Sleep! As much as you can, and every chance you get. I got weird with sleep for a while. I would get 6.5 hours, and I was pretty happy with that. I learned to go back to sleep after I would wake in the morning, and I can get a couple more hours.  When we sleep our cerebrospinal fluid cleans out the yucky toxins.
  9. Fast! I started intermittent fasting because of what I read about autophagy. This is how your cells clean out the “broken parts”. The Nobel prize was given to a doctor who has studied this. So it is pretty important stuff. Fun fact  - did you know CBD causes autophagy too?  You know I had to drop a little cannabinoid knowledge in here right?
  10. Eat! Ok, Ok, I know I just said fast, but we have to eat, so you might as well eat properly. Your body and frazzled nerves will thank you. I can’t get too preachy here. I do NOT have this figured out. In fact, I still don’t have a lot figured out, but we all know that eating whole foods, not processed, avoiding sugar, avoiding gluten, {sticking to the outside isles of the grocery store} and meal planning. If I do not meal plan I am hosed and a cruise through fast food restaurant is highly likely.

“You are worth it. You are worth the time investment”

Every single one of these are free, and you do not have to leave the house to do them. Just choose 2 or 3 of these and try it out, heck just pick one! You are worth it. You are worth the time investment. Your family will thank you. You will be kinder, gentler, you will have more patience. Money back guarantee….

With you in the plight to stay sane,

Heather

Co-founder/CEO, Realm of Caring

*Check with your doc before you start any new diet or exercise routine.

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